Anankoni

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I met him in that familiar place, surrounded by a sea of people, yet feeling a profound sense of solitude. As I wandered alone on the road I found myself on, I met fleeting people along the way. Yet it was in the nooks and crannies of the landscape that I found solace. Each lunch break became a voyage of discovery, a ritual to escape the monotony of routine. But I walked so I wouldn’t feel alone, and each step I took brought me further and further away from my comfort zone, and maybe that is the sweet spot where all the magic unfolds. I think that was the beginning of my attractiveness. Yes, I was beautiful, but it was more than that. Somehow, in my exploration and learning to step outside of my own box and boundaries, I had drawn to myself an air of magic, an inner glow and attractiveness that made others unknowingly drawn to my light. I feel it again now, but now I have a better understanding of it and how it comes to be.

My coworkers, ensconced in their habits, preferred the solace of their desks during lunch. But I craved the fresh air, the freedom of meandering through the base. I would roam the base from one end to the next, walking, exploring. Initially uneasy with my solitary strolls, I sought comfort in phone calls with my best friends. Yet overtime the discomfort became a contented norm. Lunchtime was indeed my escape, where I entered my own world and dimension.

“Oh my gosh, I saw Josh again today. He’s even finer than he was before,” I would rattle off to my girlfriend or one of my guy friend, whomever was available to talk during my lunch break.

Josh was perfect, he was the definition of tall, dark, handsome, and fit. Ever since I was 10, I had a sense that I would marry someone with a J name, maybe a Josh, Jason, or Jeff. "Maybe Josh is him,” I told my girlfriend. “Actually, I hope it’s him.”

You couldn’t tell me Josh and I weren’t meant to be. He was everything I wanted in a guy, at least physically. He reminded me of all the Zane novels I’d read in high school.

I was so Josh crazy that I didn’t notice anyone else around me; they were all irrelevant. While talking to my friends during my lunch break, I was loud, animated, and had no concern. Again, I was totally immersed in my own little world.

Fall

The arrival of fall heralded a new chapter, a season of change. I had been working at my new job for a little over a month now. On this particular day, I caught the shuttle into work from the train station instead of walking. After getting off the shuttle, I made a pit stop to the restroom. As I got out of the restroom, I noticed a guy all the way down the hallway; he was smiling at me and holding the door open for me.

I think he was waiting there the entire time for me. That’s weird, I thought to myself. Why is he holding the door for me from so far away? Dude, just let it go; I can open it myself. You don’t have to stand there and wait, I naively thought, not really picking up on his motive in the moment.

I finally got to the door he was holding open.

“Thank you,” I said.

“My pleasure,” he replied, a smile glowing on his face.

And then he was still there, walking with me. What does he want, I thought to myself.

“Are you one of the PhD students?” he asked.

“Oh, no. I work in the admissions office,” I told him, wondering if he had mistaken me for somebody else.

“Oh, okay,” he said. “My name’s Anankoni, what’s yours?”

Why is this man still talking to me, I wondered. He wasn’t bad on the eyes and was kind enough to open the door for me, so I continued to talk to him, not wanting to come off as rude.

“Oh wow, that’s a different name; I don’t think I can even say it. I’m Simone.”

He smiled. “Nice to meet you, Simone.”

“Here, try to say it; I’ll help you,” he continued.

“Can you say it again?” I asked him.

“Yes, Anankoni, spelled A.n.a.n.k.o.n.i.”

“Okay, Anan koni,” I said hesitantly.

“Yes, you got it,” he said, smiling.

At this point, I wasn’t thinking anything of this guy, not if he’s cute or ugly, just nothing. I was completely neutral toward him, as the only guy on my radar was Josh.

“I’ve noticed you around the campus a couple of times now and wanted to talk to you, but you were always on your phone. And then I noticed you wore a wedding ring sometimes, so I wasn’t sure if you were married. Are you married?” he asked.

“Really?” I replied, “this is my first time ever seeing you. No, I’m not married, but sometimes I wear the ring so people won’t bother me,” I told him candidly.

I know what you’re thinking, that maybe Josh thought I was married, too. Nope, I never wore a faux wedding ring around Josh. I just wore it when I was going to lunch or going home and didn’t want to be bothered. I’m not saying I was “bothered” all the time because I wasn’t. I don’t know, maybe I just liked the idea of wearing a wedding ring then. I would take it off once I got back to my office and home.

He smiled his warm smile again. “That’s a good idea,” he said.

But apparently, me wearing a wedding ring didn’t stop his curiosity or eventual approach. Men, I thought. Wow, I really need to be more aware of my surroundings. I’m way too Josh crazy, I briefly thought to myself. Because really, this was my first time ever seeing this guy in my life. He must’ve heard my absolute infatuation of Josh as that’s the only thing I ever talked about on the phone with my friends. So why does he still seem so eager to talk to me, I wondered.

“Ok, well nice meeting you An….”

“Anankoni,” he replied when I couldn’t pronounce his name again.

“Oh yes, Anankoni. It’s going to take me a while to learn how to say it,” I told him.

He smiled again, “It’s no problem, Simone; it’s usually hard for most people to say it. Nice to finally meet you, too.”

Then I walked to my office while he went in the opposite direction. That was interesting, I thought to myself. A little weird too, but whatever. Back to my regularly scheduled program. I wondered if Josh was here today. I hoped to see him and make googly eyes with him.

My Office

Not even an hour after getting to my office, I noticed Anankoni walking by and looking in. I pretended not to see him as he walked past my office and went around the corner.

Oh my gosh, what the fuck was this guy doing at my office? Why the hell was he here? I wondered. I still felt neutral towards him, but seeing him there made me feel a bit anxious, embarrassed, as all my coworkers were there, yet it evoked a little excitement that he was really going all in. How did he even know where I worked?’ Oh, that’s right, I had told him without even thinking anything of it or thinking he would use it for an ulterior motive. Honestly, I had naively thought our brief introduction would be the last of Anankoni, or that maybe I would see him around the campus from time to time and say hi to him, but nothing more.

After all, I was already spoken for by Josh, not really, but you get my drift. I didn’t even know if Josh was single as he hadn’t approached me yet. But I didn’t really care if he was taken; I arrogantly assumed that even if he had a girlfriend, with enough time of seeing me, he would break up with her and ask me out. I don’t know, I guess as a girl, if you’re only interested in one person and one person alone, you’re not really thinking about anyone else, nor do you really care for anyone else to pop up on your radar.

I secretly hoped Anankoni wouldn’t pass by again, yet I knew he would, and in a way, my curiosity was a little piqued.

From my first introduction with Anankoni, I’ve always felt conflicting feelings towards him; neutral yet flattered, annoyed yet intrigued, and so forth, and it would be like that for the entirety of the time I knew him. This, but that. It was all so conflicting. But this was just the beginning of what was to unfold.

I busied myself with work, knowing he would undoubtedly circle back around.

Anankoni

I hesitantly looked up to see if he had made his way back. He did make his way back, but I pretended not to see him. Internally, I tried to gather myself, what would I do about him now, ugh.

I don’t know why he thought it was appropriate to come to my office, or maybe he didn’t think.

He stood outside my office door for a moment, looking in as all my coworkers took notice of him. Ugh, I groaned within.

“Why is he just standing out there?” one of my coworkers asked, “Who is he here for?” I looked up, and he waved at me as all my coworkers oohed and ahhed. Ugh, I thought again. I guess I can’t hold off any longer.

I waved back at him and then on impulse got up to meet him outside my office door so it wouldn’t be even more awkward than it already was.

“Hi Simone,” he said.

“Hello,” I said, already forgetting how to say his name, not thinking I would ever need to say it again.

“Umm, I forgot to ask you for your number and if I could take you out sometime,” he said confidently.

Ugh. I hoped Josh didn’t walk by as this was our hallway.

What could I say to this man? In one sense, I was flattered, but in another, I didn’t know him. All I really knew was he was bold and unexpected and in a sense I applauded his efforts and vulnerability.

“Sure, this is my number,” I gave it to him as he smiled and put it in his phone. But I felt almost like I didn’t have a choice, like just take it because I can’t really reject you while everyone is looking. Right? But then again, I didn’t know if I even wanted to reject him. It was all just happening too fast without me having time to even think about what was happening or to even process what was going on. I was simply going through the motion, but no feeling was behind my decision to give him my number.

Technically, all I knew about about him was that he was bold and forward and I didn’t know if I liked it or didn’t like it yet. I mean, of course, if it was Josh, I would’ve for sure liked it. But this man, I'd only briefly met him an hour ago, but actually  not even thinking about him past that initial introduction. So, this caught me completely off-guard.

I guess with all of my other likes and relationships, as few as they were then, it took its time and happened more organically where we were both aware of each other and knew there were some feelings of attraction or connection there. But this was all just so forward and so much in the moment, maybe not for him as he had said he had seen me around before but I hadn't ever seen him before. It’s not like I had swiped right on his profile, and he on mine. He was a complete stranger off the street that I had no awareness of, and now he was invading my office, asking for my number, and I couldn’t slow it down. I’m not saying he was a bad person, and I may have actually liked him too, but this was too much and happening too fast. I couldn't process any of it so all I was doing was reacting in the moment, and going through the motions without the intentionality of the decision.

Discovery

As I walked back into my office, all my coworkers gave me their knowing looks and smiles. “Ooh, Simone. I knew it wouldn’t take you too long to meet someone,” they goaded me in a playful big sister and motherly way.

Ugh, I thought again.

“Was that Anankoni?” one of them asked.

“Uh, yea, how do you know his name?” I asked curiously. There were thousands of med students on the campus; how the heck did she know his specific name?

“Simone, you don’t know. Oh, that’s right, you wouldn’t know. You just got here. But he was the talk of the entire campus when he first applied to the school last year. They even wrote an article about him. You know he’s a celebrity, right?” she replied.

“Oh, no,” I said.

“Come look, Simone,” she continued.

And with that, she went to Google, typed in his name, and a whole load of searches popped up on him. What the fuck, I thought. Who is this man? I wished she hadn’t shown it to me. It made me feel a bit weird. I don’t have the right word for it. I don’t know; the knowledge of it made me feel as though our interaction would be less organic and more forced, as though I couldn’t form my own opinion of him.

“He’s so attractive,” another one of my coworkers chimed in.

I guess he is, I thought to myself, but it wasn’t something I even considered until she said it. But I mean, he wasn’t bad on the eyes, and was indeed attractive, but I hadn’t gotten the chance to process it yet or to think about what was going on.

“You have to give him a chance, Simone,” the one who had pulled up Google said, while my other coworkers shook their heads in agreement. “He’s going to be a doctor soon, and he’s already blah, blah, blah; you really lucked out,” she continued.

I didn’t feel as though I lucked out. This was all a bit too much, too overwhelming for me. I had just met the guy an hour ago, and now he was already encompassing so much of my space. It’s as though I was being dumped on by him, and now my coworkers were dumping even more about him onto me without my permission and without me forming an opinion yet. It was all too much. Too much of him in so little time and so very unexpected. How did my day become so all-consuming of someone I had literally just met an hour ago? I wanted my simple, peaceful morning back.

And as though on cue, my phone rang. Ugh!

It was an unknown number. I let it ring. Somehow, I knew it was him.

I didn’t have the vocabulary then for what I was feeling. But if I could describe it now, it felt as though I was unintentionally being love-bombed. It was all too much, too chaotic, too overwhelming. Maybe he meant well, after all; he had seen me enough times around the campus, but again, this was my first hour of ever knowing him. It was a bit much and so presumptuous for him to show up at my office in front of everyone without considering how that would make me feel. Maybe I didn’t want everyone in my business, which I didn’t.

I had a voicemail.

I listened to the voicemail, “Hi Simone, it’s Anankoni. I just left your office but wanted to give you my number. Looking forward to talking to you soon.”

My equilibrium was off. All I wanted to do was think about Josh, but my whole morning was consumed by Anankoni. And now my coworkers were his biggest advocate.

Home

 “There’s a celebrity on the campus who likes me,” I told my sisters when I got home.

“Really? Let’s see him,” they replied.

I typed in his name on google, and everything about him popped up, even info on him matriculating into the University I worked at.

“Wow, Simone, that’s so cool,” they voiced off.

“Yea, I guess,” I replied, not really knowing how I felt about him and the whole scenario. I felt unsure about him, even looking at his pictures didn’t move me or do anything for me. He was really attractive, but I didn’t feel anything for him. Yet, I felt as though now that I knew who he was and knew that he liked me, that I had to give him a chance. Right? It almost felt as though I was being forced into a decision based on what looked good on paper but not necessarily on how I was feeling. But it wasn’t his fault really; it’s not like he dumped it all on me. But then it was, if he hadn’t shown up at my office, my coworkers wouldn’t have dumped all of it on me, and I would have gotten the time to warm up to the idea of him the next time I saw him on the campus. But alas, that didn’t happen.

I was so confused, so muddled. It was like the perfect scenario had dropped into my lap, yet I didn’t feel like I was given a fair chance to come to my own decision about it. Everyone practically forced him down my throat.

The next day as I was in the courtyard, he walked by with two of his classmates.

“Hi Simone,”

“Hi …, sorry I don’t remember how to say your name, but I know it’s spelled Anankoni.”

“No problem,” he said, smiling. “It’s Anankoni.”

Some of the rest is a blur to me in the sense that it didn’t feel like a conscious, intentional choice I was making but more so like I was being energetically forced to be in a contractual romance with him, and I was merely going through the motions of it. I mean, he was nice enough, attractive, but I felt nothing for him, but then I did. But not a normal feeling of like, but more so a feeling that felt like I had to be there because everyone said I should and maybe I liked the idea that I was making a choice that everyone seemed to envy. Yet again, I didn’t feel any feelings towards it.

We looked good together; he checked all the right boxes, everyone around me liked him, my family, my coworkers, my friends, but even though I thought I liked him, I don’t think I did. It was a different like, one moment I felt as though it was what I wanted or desired, but then not feeling that way. I felt that consciously I liked him, but somewhere within me, a part of me that I was ignoring was rebelling against this ‘contractual’ situation.

Consumed

We started dating, eating lunch together, being together. I don’t remember thinking about Josh anymore, and maybe internally I was sad about it because since that day this guy had walked into my life, he was just always there, and my life seemed to be so consumed by him. Like he was now the star of my life, and had pushed me out of my own life. I wanted to be my own star. Even my coworkers looked at me differently because of him, and I didn’t like that. I didn’t want to be favored because of him or any man. I didn’t like that so many people around the campus knew my life and saw us as synonymous with each other, as I was more private. Within, I think I despised it all.

​I found myself swept along by external expectations and internal resistance and in the process, I had become so consumed by Anankoni. It was like one day my life was this way and then he stepped in, and my life was now completely different, and I hadn’t seen it happen. I had woken up to find myself in someone else’s life, and I hadn’t chosen it for myself, or did I? It all just happened so fast. Yet it felt like it wasn’t a choice for me. It’s hard to explain it, as I’ve never encountered this situation before and not since either. But the best I can explain it is when you date someone or meet someone, let’s say online on a dating site, it’s usually a mutual agreement to click like on each other, talk to each other, and go on a date with each other. You both get to decide and agree that that’s what you want. You both want it, even if you don’t know the person yet, but in a way you want to get to know the person, and they want to do the same with you. But I didn’t get the chance to come to that decision with Anankoni on my own or at all. It all happened so fast, and I was doing what I felt was the right thing to do because everyone else around me said it was the right thing to do and because he was interested in me, but I didn't get a chance to catch up to my feelings as it was all happening so fast.

It was just different. Everything looked right on paper, but it felt different and not in a good way. But no one would think it was off from the outside looking in, and for the life of me, I couldn’t quite put my finger on what was off about it and why he didn’t resonate with me even though consciously I would’ve said differently.

A few weeks into dating him, or maybe it was a few months, I asked one of my best guy friend to come to the gym with me on campus. This was one of the bigger gyms, and I didn’t want to go by myself; I wanted someone to come with me. And now that I think about it, it was weird, imagine, Anankoni studied on campus with me and was quite fit himself, but whenever I wanted something or needed someone to comfort me, it was never him that I turned to or wanted, all throughout dating him. I didn’t realize it then, I do now. I would go to my friends or turn to someone else. On that day, my best guy friend came to the gym with me. While there, he started talking about marriage and his dream partner.

“I don’t ever want to get married,” I told him. This was the truth then, but it wasn’t something I deeply analyzed. And honestly, it wasn’t marriage I was against per se; what I really wanted to say was, “I always want to have my freedom and independence and not to be too consumed by someone and their desires for my life. I don’t want being married to take away my independence. It isn’t fidelity that is the issue as I am a monogamous person, but more so the need to have my freedom, creativity, and expression of who I am and my own personal desires outside of a partner.” Maybe a part of me was rebelling against the situation I was now in.

When I met Anankoni for our date a few nights later, he asked me a bit defensively which made me immediately put my guard up, “Is it true you don’t ever want to get married, Simone?” I could tell he was upset.

“Ugh, no, I don’t know. What makes you say that?” I asked him.

“Well, Kyle saw you and your friend at the gym the other day, and you told your friend you didn’t want to ever get married.”

What the fuck, I thought to myself. I’d heard him mention his married classmate Kyle before, but I hadn’t met any of his friends yet. But it annoyed me knowing he had his little spies and minions around campus who somehow knew me and knew I was attached to him, yet I didn’t know them yet. It made me uneasy. I guess I have to be careful what I say from now on around the campus because I don’t know who he knows and doesn’t know, I thought to myself.

I was also annoyed with Kyle for not even introducing himself to me, yet ease-dropping on my conversation and then bringing it back to him. And then Anankoni had no shame in asking me about it, too.

I don’t know, everything about our interaction kind of annoyed me and rubbed me the wrong way. I was there with him, yet checked out. I wanted it to work out, yet I didn’t. Something about who he was on an unconscious or even conscious level did not resonate with me. Or maybe it was how I felt everyone wanted me to be with him. But there were other things he did that I viewed as a bit too forward for my taste, such as showing up to my office on that first day, and then another time calling me to invite himself over to my house while my parents were there, which I was not ready for him to meet them. But alas, there he was, working with his timeline and not really waiting for me to catch up to his feelings.

Inauthentic 

 All throughout dating him, he never mentioned his fame, none of it. It felt inauthentic. I mean, he shared other personal details about himself, such as being a school teacher, enjoying the arts, but not going deeply into it. And of course, sharing his love for his family but never about his other career and fame, and I wasn’t going to bring it up that my coworkers had already told me.

“Did you know Anankoni was in that movie,” one of his friends mentioned to me one day as we were spending time together at their house.

“No,” I said, looking at him inquisitively.

“Don’t listen to him,” he replied back and dropped the conversation.

I didn’t like that. At this point, I thought he could’ve shared who he was. It’s not like it really mattered to me anyhow, aside from the possible authenticity of our interaction.

I don’t really know why he didn’t share that side of himself with me; maybe he wanted an authentic connection without the outside knowledge of that area of his life. But at some point, the two would have to merge. But it never did. Eventually, after wasting more time with him, I started to cut ties with him.

And even after ending our connection, there were a few times he’d see me walking home from the campus, and he’d stop and ask me if I wanted a ride. On this particular day, it was dark outside, he’d stopped and asked, “Simone, can I give you a ride home?”

I really wanted to say, “no thank you,” but something about him and his energy made me easily comply, almost against my will, as though it wasn’t a question but a silent demand. I awkwardly got in his truck that I had sat in on many occasions before but now it felt strange to be sitting there next to him. I’d wondered why he’d even care about giving me a ride home. A ride I really didn’t want. But maybe he was simply being nice.

“You can make a left on that street,” I told him once we got close to where I lived.

“I know where you live, Simone,” he said simply.

When he got to my house, he stopped his truck and looked over at me as though there was more he wanted to say but didn’t.

“Well, thanks for the ride. See you,” I told him as I quickly disembarked his truck.

But there were sweet moments too; where I didn't question our connection, like the first time I went over to his house, before we kissed.

“I don’t know about you, but my lips get so chapped in the cold.” He took out about five chapsticks.

“Would you like some?” he asked.

I shook my head yes.

“I haven’t used this one yet, here,” he gave it to me, and I put it on. I wouldn’t have mind using the others.

He watched me closely as I put his chapstick on my lips while I bashfully looked down. After I finished, I gave it back to him.

He took it from me, put the others down, and used the one I had given him back on his own lips. It was quite intimate. I watched him as he had watched me. Something about him giving me the fresh chapstick to use and then using it right after me was sensual in such a simplistic way. I could really like him after all, I thought to myself in that moment.

But despite moments of sweetness and intimacy, doubts lingered beneath the surface. The external perceptions of our relationship, fueled by societal expectations, added a weight that I struggled to bear.

As the days passed, I found myself entangled in a web of conflicting emotions and unspoken truths. The pressure to conform to external ideals clashed with my inner desire for authenticity and independence.

Each interaction with Anankoni felt like a dance of masks, where the true essence of our connection remained shrouded in uncertainty. The line between genuine connection and societal expectations blurred, leaving me adrift in a sea of conflicting emotions

Lesson

In the end, as I reflect on the journey we shared, I realize the importance of staying true to oneself amidst the noise of external influences and to not go into a situation based on other people’s desires and how good it looks on paper.

Authenticity, I've come to understand, lies in embracing the totality of our experiences, merging all the aspects of self, and not just the parts one wants to show. Secrets, and duplicity does not resonate or make for an authentic connection. I feel that people must accept the totality of their experiences and trust it, allow it to meet and merge with who they are now.

Trust, connect, merge knowing that regardless of the outcome, whether harmonious or discordant, each experience gets us closer and closer to our true self, serving as stepping stones toward self-discovery and growth.

​I’ll leave it at this, reliving these experiences through my writing has brought an air of nostalgia and a sense of missed opportunity. Memories are interesting; it harps on the pleasantries, often overlooking those nuanced moments of incompatibility; seeing the beauty and forgetting the insanity. But alas, nothing is ever a loss but an opportunity to get closer and closer to our true essence.

May this reflection serve as a testament to the transformative power of introspection and self-discovery, guiding us toward a deeper understanding of ourselves and the world around us.

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