Embracing Independence: How I Carved My Own Path in Life

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My Early Resolve for Independence

From an early age, I possessed a unique sense of independence and tenacity. Despite not being financially affluent during my formative years, I never felt 'poor' or allowed my circumstances to define me. I knew my journey to success would not have the backing of familial wealth. In many ways, this was an intriguing conundrum, considering the fact that I had always been noticed by men from various walks of life. I could have easily chosen a comfortable life married to a successful man early on.

However, that was not the path I desired. I yearned to establish my own identity and achieve my dreams on my own terms, independent of any man. This inborn defiance stemmed from a desire to prove to myself that I could thrive in any circumstance, that I could succeed due to my own efforts, not because I was propped up by someone else.

I rejected numerous proposals, steadfast in my resolve to explore life and accomplish my goals independently first. I desired to attend college, embark on adventures across the world, and live my life without constantly considering or accounting for a partner.

Asserting Independence in Love and Life

After accomplishing these milestones – graduating from college (and may I say without any debt), traveling the globe, and enjoying a myriad of experiences – I felt a sense of fulfillment and self-confidence. I had proven to myself that I could thrive independently. It was then that I felt ready to consider a serious relationship leading to marriage.

My journey had equipped me with the wisdom to navigate romantic relationships effectively, recognizing when to walk away and who to avoid. I remember an incident with my now-husband early in our courtship. He suggested a trip to Italy and later tried to use it as leverage during a disagreement. I quickly set him straight, reminding him of my past travels, one of which I spent a year living in Europe. In fact, I had met him only a week after moving back to the States from living in Germany.

The conversation went something similar to the below:

Him: “And I was planning on taking you to Italy, but I guess not.”

My response immediately was: “Listen motherfucker (minus the motherfucker lol), do you think I need you or any man to travel to Europe with or anywhere else in the world. You’re out of your (fucking) mind if you think I do. I JUST came back from living in EUROPE. I can go to to Italy or any country there anytime I please, with or without you, so don't think you're doing me any favors or that you're allowing me to experience anything I haven't already experienced. Don't get it twisted.”

He was flabbergasted and tongue tied because he knew damn well I had just moved back from Germany.

His response was: “I’m sorry Simone, that wasn’t what I meant. I was just thinking that it would be nice for us to travel there together.”

My response: “Well, then say that.”

Trust and believe, he never pulled any fuckery like that again. Yes, he was well-off, came from an affluent family but after that first little stunt he pulled that got his ass checked, he never tried that mess again with me. In fact, that was when he knew I wasn't afraid to walk away from the relationship and that we were equals, and if we weren’t equals, that meant I was the one who was above him, irrespective of his material status.

I say this to say, without fulfilling those desires I had within myself I wouldn’t have known if I could do it on my own.


Own Your Journey 

My personal desires may not be the same as yours, and you may not even have any desires or stipulations you need to overcome in yourself as I did, which is all fine. The point is to be so comfortable and secure within your own self that no motherfucker can take you off that pedestal. This means you are not afraid to walk away from any or every relationship or anyone. Nor, do you think anyone is out of your league.

My advice to you is to pursue your desires unabashedly and independently. Establish your own identity and accomplishments so that no one can belittle or control you. Accept help along the way, but never compromise your dignity or principles for favors. Favors/help should be freely given, otherwise don't accept it, the cost would've already been too high.

Understand your motivations, desires, boundaries, and insecurities. This self-awareness and honesty with yourself is the key to achieving anything you desire. Uphold your self-esteem and dignity by being true to yourself and doing what makes you feel worthy and content within yourself. This way, you'll never feel intimidated or out of place, no matter the company you keep. You'll know deep within that you are capable of walking away from any situation that compromises your dignity.


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