In conclusion, I urge women to weigh their investments in men carefully, whether in relationships or other areas of life. The efforts you use to mold him or make him a “better” man should also TANGIBLY benefit you, RIGHT NOW or at least has a quick turn-around, especially during the dating/non-marriage stage. Again, any efforts you expend in shaping a man's character should yield tangible, immediate benefits for you. This way your efforts is not in vain.

If, later on down the road, your efforts also inadvertently benefits somebody else. At the least, you would’ve reaped your reward (by making sure you benefitted).

Remember, do not ever put more into a man than what you will get back out of him, because, like it or not, you may not be there for that long-anticipated reaping season.


*This is also why women may stay in dead end, and stagnant relationships that isn't leading anywhere or even benefitting them. They've invested so much into a man (usually funds, time and resources) and have benefitted HIS life that they are waiting for the time when he will benefit their life. And, unfortunately, with relationship imbalances like these, that time will more than likely never come. And, if it comes for the guy, he will more than likely move on and benefit somebody else who wasn't sitting around waiting for him to level up.

Sometimes you have to cut your losses no matter how much you've invested in someone or how much time it has cost you. Charge it as a lesson fee and call it a day. #CutTheLoss #EmbraceTheLesson

Sidenote- I’m now married to somebody else, not the boyfriend discussed in this piece. So, I’m sure another woman is bragging about his exquisite tastes when I LITERALLY created them for him lol.