Men often harbor an illusion that women are fragile creatures who cannot endure pain or trauma, believing that this alone makes us worthy of being cared for and protected. Additionally, the 'tough' women who shouts their pain are deemed unworthy of protection, labeled as being too "masculine." In reality, these women are sitting exactly within their femininity, albeit under the weight of burdens too heavy to bear. Conversely, there are women who suffer in silence, concealing their pain beneath a surface level of femininity that caters to men's comfort, ultimately subjugating themselves to men's distorted perceptions. The truth differs greatly from men's illusions—women shoulder immense pain and trauma, oftentimes at the hands of those who claim to shield them. While women are often depicted as fragile and incapable of enduring hardships, the truth is that men cannot withstand the challenges women face. Women may lack brute strength, but the pain they endure is unparalleled to that of men. This truth is known to both genders, even if buried deeply in the subconscious.

Men overcompensate their fragility with the need for war, the subjugation of women, and portraying themselves as physically strong and capable of enduring all pain.

​However, I am not here to fuel a gender war. I am shedding light on the fact that overt displays are often masking uncomfortable and ego-threatening truths. Men's illusion of women as weak and fragile princesses serves to boost their egos but is ultimately a false reality.

 The truth is that women are exhausted by emotionally and physically inert men who lack accountability and fail to comprehend intergender dynamics. Even married women are fatigued by men's emotional and physical laziness and lack of accountability. The state of masculinity is in disarray.

Men have dropped the ball, leaving women unguarded and unprotected, burdening them with the responsibilities of child-rearing while they shirk their duties. This is a cop-out—an excuse to avoid taking full responsibility. Women leading is essential because men cannot lead a woman in their delusional state. Women do not need men to run their lives; they need men to contribute equally when they enter "her" domain, and this has nothing to do with finances. Through collaboration, sharing ideas, and supporting each other's growth, a balanced and thriving partnership can emerge.

Women leading and men following is not simply a reversal of traditional roles. It is about women setting boundaries and expectations in their relationships through actions rather than words. Women must demand accountability from men, and seek meaningful actions rather than empty promises.

​This means refraining from procreation and marriage until men acknowledge and address the pain and hardship women endure. Men must understand the physical and emotional burdens women bear and actively contribute to lightening that load instead of perpetuating a delusional narrative. Women deserve to be treated with tenderness and kindness, acknowledging their struggles and pain. This is what we seek and what we rightfully deserve.

 I implore men to treat women with respect and tenderness, recognizing the unparalleled physical pain women endure. We do not seek to have our true nature and experiences overlooked to stroke men's egos. We reject the delusion where women carry physical burdens while men are perceived as enduring the most pain. This is far from the truth, and we all know it.

There's a running joke amongst nurses that men are the worst when it comes to pain especially the macho men.

When women are solely portrayed as weak or delicate princesses, it overlooks a part of our essence, pain, and trauma. See us for who we truly are—deserving of kindness, tenderness, and love despite what we have endured, bared, and seen. We refuse to live in a world where women shoulder physical burdens while men are perceived as enduring the most pain. This narrative is false, and we are all aware of it.

Life unfolds with its gentle fragrances and beauty, juxtaposed with the harsh realities of decay and decline. The waters, at times tranquil and soothing, can also rage and roar, reflecting the diverse experiences we navigate. Women embody all facets of life, embracing its complexities and contradictions. They deserve tenderness, kindness, respect, and love—not because they are soft and weak, and know not pain, but because they encompass all these aspects, experiencing it all.
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Women have been present throughout the history of time, standing alongside men as they wage their wars, and dying alongside them all this time. It's crucial to acknowledge that women have felt pain, endured hardships, and experienced the full spectrum of life. They are not just delicate and tender; they encompass the entirety of the human experience.
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